Hey there Wildflowers!
I have to say, as sad as I am to see the holiday season be over with (its my favourite time of year) … there is something so exciting about starting a new year! Late night gatherings and festivities are replaced with nights in, often with a hot cup of tea or curled up on the couch, and as you put away that last deceoration you can’t help but feel a sense of a fresh start!
There is however a downside to January, and that is the dreaded “New Year Resolution”. Now don’t get me wrong, for some people making an annual resolution works but for most individuals (including myself), there is a sense of pressure we put on ourselves since we generally only do this just once every year. Another factor is that sometimes its easy to let things slide or give up all together because life begins to get busy again, feelings of guilt and failure often set in, and we start to lose focus on what we initially intended for ourselves. I used to go through this EVERY YEAR!!!
It wasn’t until I started goal setting every month that I stopped making “resolutions” for myself as I didn’t need to anymore. When I gave myself time to sit and reflect on a regular basis I didn’t feel pressure, guilt, or failure because I was more in tune to what was working for me and what wasn’t, which is why I am now a huge advocate for setting intentions and goals on a regular basis rather than setting an annual resolution.
When we take the time to reflect on the goals we have set for ourselves it gives us a chance to really see what is working for us and what isn’t. For example, if you decided to go to the gym 5 days a week for the next 3 months but you find its beginning to exhaust you due to your gruelling work schedule, that’s okay! Acknowledge that, and create a new goal such as going to the gym 3 days a week instead. Not every goal and intention we set goes exactly to plan, but rather than give it up all together take the time once a week or month and revamp that goal and set a new intention!
Now this may seem a little overwhelming, or you may think you just don’t have the time, SO here are some tips to help you begin…
- Buy a journal! I’m a huge advocate of this because well, life gets busy and writing out our goals and intentions not only helps to clear our minds, but it also forces us to take a moment to sit down and pause.
- Take time for yourself each day, even if its 5 minutes, or before you get out of bed in the morning. Find a quiet space where you can be alone without distractions, and technology, and remind yourself of why you started.
- Re evaluate and reflect, at least once a month. You may be on the right track, or perhaps what you first intended for yourself isn’t serving you and you need to reevaluate. Read your journal, and begin a new page adding any changes to existing goals, or set new intentions. If you set rather large goal for yourself, you may find it helpful to do this even weekly!
By saying goodbye to resolutions and hello to intentions, not only do we decrease the sense of pressure but we are more inclined to follow through, we are generally happier, and best of all…we are kinder to ourselves! You allow yourself to be more in tune to what you really want in life, and you will find it easier to reach your goals, go after what you want, and become the best version of yourself.
Remember that nothing happens over night, and that’s why it’s so important to keep going, reflect regularly, take time for yourself, and enjoy all the unfolding’s and moments of your journey!